Books I finished in September 2024

It’s been a while… again. Blogging has been a sporadic activity in recent years. Yet I’ve felt the tug to write again for some time. So here I am again, seeing what I can make of my blogging spaces. If you’re interested in my running adventures, pop over to my other blog for a recent post about my experience taking on one of the toughest 100 milers in the United States.

In recent years, my reading of books has picked up again, though 2023 had a dip. I have already read more than twice as many books in 2024 as I did last year. I’m trying something a little different here. Inspired by a favorite podcast and a couple of newsletters, I’m sharing the books I finished reading last month. The goal here isn’t deep analysis. I only want to share a few thoughts on what I’ve read. So without further ado…

September’s list

September was an unusually high month for books completed. In no particular order…

1. The No Club: Putting a Stop to Women’s Dead-End Work by Linda Babcock, Brenda Peyser, Lise Vesterlund, and Laurie Weingart

This book arose from a group of high-performing women feeling overwhelmed by the work they had committed to, eventually producing a line of research to better understand how they (and many other women) ended up in their state while simultaneously helping each other push back and rebalance their loads. The central premise is that women (as well as people of color, and especially women of color) take on a disproportionate level of non-promotable work. This moves beyond the “office housework” concept in which women take notes, fill coffee, and plan celebrations. It also includes activities that may be important, even critical, to the organization but that do not generate the “currency” that is recognized in promotion. In the academic setting where these authors work, this included things like curriculum design and IRB service whereas their promotion and tenure depended on research and publications.

Honestly, a lot in this book will come as little surprise to women who have worked professionally for any length of time. One thing I appreciate is how they highlight the impact of this type of work across different professions and how they debunk many of the assumptions about why women end up doing more of this work than men. Even though the authors are academics, they also provide very practical guidance on how to identify and evaluate the promotability of work, acknowledging that it will change across contexts (including career stage), and strategies to reduce the amount of non-promotable work you take on. I’m hoping to return to complete the exercises they outline at the end of each chapter to better understand how this might play out in my own role.

2. How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community by Mia Birdsong

We have developed and internalized many social and cultural norms about what family and friendship is supposed to look like. In American society, at least, this is stereotypically rooted in the nuclear family and familial ties, with spouse/partner filling many roles. Mia Birdsong draws on different visions of family, friendship, and community that have been created, often by members of marginalized groups who were ostracized from or simply didn’t have access to the “traditional” structures that media, popular culture, and even government elevate.

This book (along with The Amen Effect by Sharon Brous, which I started in September) have me examining my spaces and thinking about how I show up and what my sense of family and community might look like. I have gained significant levels of privilege in my life, but the “traditional” family and friend structures that I grew up with don’t fit my life. I am married to a man, but there are no kids in our future. I’m still a few years out from turning 45, but both my parents are now dead, I live on the opposite side of the country as my remaining family, and those relationships have grown more and more distant over time. I don’t have conclusions at the moment. But I have some hope that we can imagine ways forward.

3. The Art of Living by Thich Nhat Han

I originally picked this up in April 2023, heading to a mindful running retreat in Nepal and Bhutan. When I returned, it was tucked into some spot out of sight—until I relocated it again a few months ago. It’s not a long read, but it’s one I’ve moved through slowly. I’ve found myself drawn to many tenets of Buddhism, expressed here and in other readings and listenings in recent years. This book delves deeply into the concept of interdependence, letting go, and the art of presence. Perhaps one of the most significant lessons I took was that “being present in the moment” does not mean releasing aspiration, but rather perhaps our rationale and attachment to aspiration.

4. Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport

My first Cal Newport read was A World Without Email in 2020. I quickly devoured Slow Productivity when it was released earlier this year. I’ve listened to his podcast Deep Questions for years, almost always taking away something meaningful. And I’ve heard Newport and others talk about Deep Work (both the book and the concept) for a while. But I hadn’t picked up the book until The Growth Equation Academy selected it for their book club, associated with the theme of humane productivity.

Yet I think I read this book at just the right time. I’ve been working on building habits and routines this year that will clear the way for a more sane, sustainable approach to intense work projects next year. I had been implementing some of Newport’s systems (learned from his podcast and other books). But the deep dive into Deep Work helped some ideas click into place. Similar to the first book on my September reading list, Newport balances an exploration of academic research with personal experience and practical strategies and tips for establishing a deep work practice. And in fact, as I read The No Club, I found myself thinking back to Deep Work principles.

I’m now working more intentionally on carving out time for deep work and understanding what demands that level of focus and how to best prepare myself and workspace for it. His Q&A for The Growth Equation Academy also has me thinking about how to encourage and support my team to integrate deep work practice into their routines.

5. The Political Determinants of Health by Daniel E. Dawes

More and more, people have been recognizing that developing new medical interventions is not enough to change health at a population level in the United States. Rather many issues are driven by social determinants of health, non-medical factors such as income, education, zip code, and health care access. This book pushes further, positioning political determinants including policies, systems, and politics as ‘determinants of the determinants’—i.e., that it is voting and the legislation passed that change or maintain the social determinants of health.

Daniel Dawes, a lawyer and professor, provides a brief history of health equity policies at the federal level, effectively going back to the founding of the United States. A centerpiece of the book is the development, passage, and preservation of the Affordable Care Act. Dawes offers incredible insights, having been at the forefront of this legislation. I think there are many excellent lessons here for folks interested in health policy. As someone who is not a policy maker or advocate, though, I think this text provides a critical reminder of the importance of voting and contacting elected officials in moving the needle on seemingly intractable problems in our society.

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A theme for 2024: Systems

I’m not one for resolutions. To me, they often felt too rigid, prescriptive. Or maybe that was the perfectionist who understood goals as all or nothing, not only in the what but the how.

I do, though, pick a word or theme for the year. I think I first picked up the idea from a post by Cate Houston (I could go back in the archives & confirm, but I’m trying to get this written & practicing letting little things go sometimes).

Reflecting on 2023’s word

Unusually, I didn’t write about my word last year. I did pick one, but it never made it to the blog. It didn’t even make it on a post-it by my desk. So when my husband asked me what my word was last year, it took me a while to resurrect.

Space.

2023 was meant to be a year to carve out space. To not fill my days with more. To commit to shaping spaces, physical & temporal, to better support my life.

We had just moved into a new home, same city but a place that we own pay the bank (rather than a landlord) for each month. We wanted to create a comfortable living space. We did.

I ran a lot of races in 2022, and Gene was training for Ironman. We’ve been talking for years about mountain adventures we wanted to go on, but training and events limited the time. In 2023, we committed to keeping space in our schedules for those outings, and we had some incredible days in the mountains together and with friends.

At work, I stepped back from a few things that were not really serving what I needed to focus on. It was fortuitous I suppose, as personal and professional events placed more demands on my time. The space I created was rapidly filled, then over filled. Whole it was a successful year in many regards, I didn’t succeed at holding that space.

2024: A year for systems

This year, I’m doing something unusual. I’m taking a word someone else set for their year.

Well, that’s not quite right. It’s something I kept finding my focus drawn to over the past many months, especially as work got busier and some things were sliding far down the priority list. Systems also kept coming up in my reading, listening, and conversations. I just hadn’t found the single word I was looking for until seeing Ryan Holiday’s post last week.

2024 is a year of preparation. Next year, I will be managing a large project at work—the sort that keeps our institute running, or not. This year, we are undertaking planning work, essential to the project.

But that’s not the only preparation I need. I know from prior and ongoing experience that other work doesn’t stop just because we have this big thing going. There’s still the day to day. There are still new shiny objects that can be hard to ignore. There are still the unplanned changes that throw things out of balance.

This is where systems come in. The truth is, in many cases, I have systems—but they’re not always explicitly articulated or working optimally. How do we make decisions about which projects to start or stop? I have guidelines, but they’re mostly in my head. How do we make information about complex processes, in particular the “institutional knowledge”, more accessible? I know shared notes and process documents will improve our recall and reduce reliance on individual memories, yet that’s the work that’s easily forgotten when we get busy or just tired.

Whether they’re working well or not, whether they are operating as intended or not… Systems are embedded and shape our behaviors. If we want them to work for us, to improve our lives, we have to build/borrow/use them with intention.

This is my time to do that.

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More of less

What could you do more of?

Ah, the ever human pursuit of doing more…

More exercise, more love, more reading, more writing, more work…

More, more, more.

But maybe what we need more of is… less.

More rest and recovery from the effort we put in so we can grow.

More saying “no” to doing more so that the top priorities get the attention they deserve.

More subtraction—taking tasks off the list, simplifying process, setting aside the tools and things (physical and emotional) that no longer serve us—so that we have the space and time to focus on what matters.

More of detaching ourselves from the persona whose perceived worth is entangled in how much we do, how busy we are.

How do we get, how do we embrace, doing more of less?

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The best advice is a guide, not a prescription

Daily writing prompt
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

We tend to think of advice as a more experienced person telling us what we should do, what the other person would do in our shoes. But each of us has a different set of skills, experiences, privilege, health, wealth, environment, core values, and principles that shape what is possible and what feels possible to us at any given time.

And so the best advice is generally not prescriptive. Rather it’s a short collection of words summing up some wisdom or lesson that its giver has gained through their life’s experiences and interactions. It’s not meant to tell you what to do but to help you craft and use a framework for your life. With that view of “advice”, direction doesn’t need to come from someone you know speaking specifically to the details of your circumstances at this moment. We can find it all around us, in reading, in listening, in sharing—if we leave ourselves open to it.

Here are a few pieces of guidance that have helped me navigate life or shift my perspective in meaningful ways.

For the person starting their career: Your first/next job will not be your last job. (From my former PhD advisor, Larry Marnett)

For relationships: Boundaries can be love. (Prentis Hemphill in Holding Change)

For performance: Stress + rest = growth. (Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness in Peak Performance, also preached by David Roche)

You need both something that challenges you (the workout, the big project, the new audience) and the space to integrate, process, and recover to make the most of your mind’s and/or body’s response to that challenge.

For life: A little goes a long way. (The precise phrase is one used frequently in Yoga with Adriene, but this is a piece of ‘advice’ that has come from many in my life.)

It’s easy to give ourselves an out. “I don’t have an hour for what’s on the plan, so what’s the point?”

Compounding gains. Consistency. Habit that becomes practice. Most parts of our lives aren’t all-or-nothing. Smaller daily or weekly practices may, in fact, deliver greater gains than an infrequent intensive session. Yoga, saving money, cleaning… A little now is better than none, and it will probably make it easier to show up for it again tomorrow or next week.

For advice: Take what you need and leave the rest. (Also many sources)

What you need isn’t what validates your perspective, but it’s what you need to hear. But not every piece of counsel is going to fit the shape of your life. Or maybe you’re not ready to hear it at this time. That doesn’t make it bad advice. It just might not be the advice you can act on right now. And it applies to the wisdom you build for yourself as much as that you gather from others. You are a different person living a different life than you were 10 years ago or even yesterday. What served you well then may no longer serve you today.

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The ones who are always OK

You have these people in your life who are always OK.

Nothing seems to ever truly throw them off. Shit happens, as it does to all who walk through life—but for them, it looks like just another step on their path. Perhaps a little wobble but soon enough they’re on their way. They don’t complain. They keep moving. If you ask offhandedly, they’ll answer automatically, “I’m fine.”

And sometimes we are fine. There’s nothing of note to report. We’re dealing with the things, and we’re making our way through.

But sometimes, our silence isn’t a sign of sanguinity in the face of challenge. Sometimes it’s the sign of quiet struggle in solitude.

Why not speak up though?

Because we’re the ones who are always OK. It’s what’s expected of us—by family, friends, self.

Perhaps we’re trying to convince ourselves that we really are OK, this is fine, we’re fine, everything is fine. Sometimes that’s what we need to continue forward.

Or perhaps, whether from imagination or experience, we feel/fear that you don’t know how to react to us not being OK. Will you brush it off? “Oh it’s not that bad. You’ll be fine, you always are.” Or will you view it a radical and disconcerting twist? “You’re always fine! This is completely out of character. You need to manage this.”

Check in on your friends who are always OK. Listen to their silence as much as their words. Because sometimes, like everyone else in this world, we’re not fine. And know we’re not alone when we’re not OK can make the way ahead seem a little lighter.

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